I'd asked my dear friend Carly Rose to contribute to my blog several months ago. Not only because she has been a close friend of mine for nearly 20 years, but also because she is, hands down, one of the most intelligent and well spoken people I have ever known. Holistic health and wellness are shared passions between us. Mine often in the form of herbalism and hers in the importance of proper nutrition and vision therapy (she's a phenomenal optometrist, and a Fellow of the American Academy of Optometry). I'd guessed that perhaps she would contribute some thoughts on vision therapy, or optimum nutrition for healthy vision, either of which would have been great, but what she has so graciously provided is so much more- even better than I had imagined. She has written what is truly on her heart right now. So, without further ado, I am happy to feature what I hope will be the first of many contributions from Dr. Carly Rose.
We need to find power in the pause; the stillness. This is not a novel concept. We all know that we are supposed to meditate and breathe. Think before speaking so we act, instead of react. There are over 4,000 PubMed search results from the word ”meditation” alone. The science is there. The logic is obvious. When we quiet our mind and still our hearts, we can think much clearer. We get into the “flow”. Our souls are allowed to be as nature intended. But here is what they don’t tell you: this shit is hard. It is a practice. We are not born as meditation masters; we have to work for it. Simple is not easy. I literally have to set an alarm in my calendar on my phone (which is probably the item most in the way of a quiet mind in my life) three days a week to schedule a five-minute meditation. I set my stopwatch on said phone, because Lord knows I can’t go over 300 seconds of stillness. And you know what? I hit “dismiss” on that alarm and go weeks without investing in myself. I kick myself and have a little internal self-deprecation, but then the next time my reminder alerts me, I try to do it. The more time passes, the more successful I become. Practice. So why does this matter now? As mentioned in the first sentence: this is not a new idea. In fact, it is centuries old. This is recycled information here. However, clearly we have missed the memo the last few months. The year of 2016 has not been pretty with respect to loving each other. We must fill our own cups with love and stillness so that it can spill out upon others. Practice. Love yourself, so you can love others. You will be a better mom, brother, cousin, friend. This will trickle down so your children will be better people. Practice. Practice so you will be ready for when life’s biggest hardships hit. We will be able to weather the storm and love through the hatred.